In my last job, there was a girl that I worked with that was a boss.
She KNEW HER STUFF. She had worked there the longest (10 years), she was uber respected and incredibly smart.
She was my go-to. Didn’t know how to do something? Ask her. Didn’t know how to use a system? Ask her. Didn’t know where something was Ask her. How to handle a conversation? Ask her.
She was well respected for a reason, so why not just ask her about everything I didn’t know?
Now, looking back, I know I did myself a massive disservice:
- I didn’t learn for myself. I didn’t use her for guidance, I used her as a crutch.
- I didn’t give myself a chance to build my own confidence. I was borrowing hers.
- When tough times came, I didn’t have the stamina and belief in myself to do what needed to be done.
All in all, I should’ve LEARNED THINGS MYSELF. I should’ve studied systems, I should’ve read books on handling people better, I should’ve practiced even when I wasn’t ready.
This builds, what I like the call, the experience factor.
The experience factor can’t be given. It can only be earned.
This is how it’s earned:
- Time. Staying in one place for a long time inevitably gives you this incredible weapon.
- Knowledge. When you know your stuff, you say it with authority and people listen.
- Failures. Messing up and adjusting to make it just right is going to give you a level of confidence that YOU KNOW WHAT’S UP.
The only way to earn this factor is to put in the work: study, study, study. Try different things and adjust as needed, stay laser focused in one area.